Clyde Pilkington is the most sincere, best-intentioned man, husband, and writer about marriage that I know. When I told him about his mistake in Ephesians 5 back in 2014, he was so incredulous and incensed about it that he said we couldn't work together anymore.

The fact remains that anyone basing a marriage on the abuse of the extended metaphor of Ephesians 5 that Mr. Pilkington writes about will certainly imperil his or her marriage.

I used to make this mistake myself. Then I studied metaphors—and especially the teaching on the extended metaphor by A.E. Knoch. When I saw the truth of what Paul was really teaching in Ephesians 5, and I compared it to what Mr. Pilkington was teaching, I knew I had to write an exposé. Married couples of my acquaintance were already struggling with it.

I have nothing but respect for Clyde Pilkington the believer, the man, the father, the grandfather, and the husband. I love him and always will. This is about doctrine and nothing else. If it weren't important doctrine, I would not be talking about it (yet again) and I certainly would not have written my own book (yet to be published) on the topic.

Grace and peace to all, but especially to my brother Clyde Pilkington.